The Rock Ceremony

The “Rock Ceremony is a great way to bring not only the unity of the couple into the wedding ceremony but also include everyone who attends your wedding. Although small, polished stones are usually used, the couple may choose to use any other token you would like to use and really let yourself think creative . . . seashells, seaglass, colored beads or crystal, flowers, etc.

As you will see below, your guests make a wish for your happiness and then the rocks (tokens) are collected into a single container… each rock representing a wish and an individual present just for you as a couple on your wedding day.


You could even have small markers for each guest so they could write their name on the rock. Then, the couple can save the tokens in a nice container (like the one pictured above) as a keep-sake. Also, some couples combine the elements of other unity ceremonies (such as the “Sand Ceremony”) and pour sand or water over the collected rocks (tokens). The many variations of this rock ceremony are only limited by your imagination. 

As with all my wedding ceremonies, the final wording of any ceremony,
or part of a ceremony, may vary from the samples shown on this website…
based on consultation and feed-back from the couple.


Each guest has been given a small polished stone upon arriving.

Before you met, your lives were on different paths with different destinations. But love has brought you together and joined these separate paths into one. Each one of your friends and family here today have been given a small polished stone that represents their unique individuality and their presence at your wedding today. You also each have a stone of your own that symbolizes your previous separate lives, separate sets of friends, separate families and the different life’s journeys you once traveled.

I will now ask that everyone please take out the stone you have been
given and pause to make a wish or blessing for happiness and
good will for the couple for the future of their marriage.

Everyone pauses to make their wish.

Now, we will collect the stones and the couple will then
add their individual stones to the container as well.

The couple adds their stones to the container. 

With the combining of these stones, you have now symbolically joined your once separate lives. As the stones have been combined with love into one container,
so now are your friends and family joined, through you, into one. And your once
solitary life’s path are also now one. All that was once separate is now shared,
and in this sharing you both will find new strength and joy as together
you forge a new life’s path and destination.