Your Wedding Ceremony Contains:
* Moments of Pure Joy * Moments That Are Magical. Moments For Romance Moments That Represent Your Friendship * Moments When You Join Together As One * Moments For Treasured Memories *
Wedding Ceremonies are so powerful and amazing. There is no moment so precious as the way two people look at each other as they become husband and wife. The love they share for each other is easy to see. You will find that once you walk up that aisle you will just lose yourself in what is taking place. You won’t hear or see much- you will be present in a remarkable moment, that is yours alone.
Just think after months of planning the day is finally getting closer and closer. You start to realize that you really haven’t thought much about your wedding ceremony.
Are you going to write your own vows, wing it, or ask your wedding officiant or wedding celebrant to help you?
Below are some great ideas to incorporate into your own wedding ceremony making not only the words have a personal meaning to you and your fiance but adding that special wedding ceremony extra to make it a unique and memorable way to become husband and wife.
The wedding ceremony is important and actually sets the tone for what is yet to come. It is about the two of you, the promises that you make to each other and the journey you will embark on as husband and wife.
Feel free to ask questions about each one.
A Wedding Ceremony With a personal touch can consist of the following – these are added elements to your main ceremony:
I actually saw a Bell Ringing Ceremony at an actual wedding ceremony that took place right on the Oprah Show. It was so beautiful that I knew one day a bride would cross my path where I could add this to her wedding ceremony. The purpose of the Bell Ringing at a Wedding Ceremony is to take a time There are two versions of a Bell Ringing that I have used as an officiant.
1. Just after the welcoming and beginning of the wedding ceremony, the guests are told about the bell ringing by the officiant.
Breaking Of The Glass:
Breaking Glass offers two meanings…
It reminds us of the destruction of the Holy Temple.
The breaking of the glass also is a warning of the frailty of a marriage.
That sometimes a single thoughtless act, breech of trust, or infidelity can damage a marriage in ways that are very difficult to undo – just as it would be so difficult to undo the breaking of this glass. Knowing that this marriage is permanent, the bride and groom should strive to show each other the love and respect befitting their spouse and love of their life.
Once the glass is broken, the guests rejoice, ‘Mazel Tov!’
The Candle lighting is divided into two parts – the lighting of the family candles and the lighting of the Unity or Wedding Candle. Part Two follows the exchange of vows and declaration and blessing of the marriage.
Part One can take place at the time indicated in this outline, or a bit earlier, for example on occasion couples have their mothers, who seated last, light the candles just before they are seated and then the wedding processional starts.
CANDLE LIGHTING SAMPLE ONE:
Part One — Candles, representing the lives of both – Name – and – Name – and the union of the two families will be lit by their mothers (friends, children) – Lighter’s Name – and – Lighter’s Name –
Part Two — Name – and – Name – will now light the Unity Candle, symbolizing the merging of their two lives.
Or Part Two (long version) — In a moment – Name – and – Name – will light their wedding candle from the two already burning. Doing so symbolizes the merging of their lives into one.
CANDLE LIGHTING SAMPLE TWO:
Part One — The two outside candles that have been placed here are lit by members of both families to represent the lives of – Name – and – Name – to this moment. Their lights, representing the faith, wisdom, and love they have received from their parents are distinct, each burning alone. After the exchange of vows, – Name – and – Name – will light the centre candle, representing the union of their lives.
Part Two — The Bride and Groom will now light the Unity Candle to symbolize the union of their lives. From now on their thoughts shall be for each other, and joys and sorrows shall be shared alike. By allowing the flame of the two smaller candles to remain lit, they also accept the individuality of each other as a means of fulfilling their oneness.
Coin Ceremony :
A Coin Ceremony is an addition that you can add as part of your wedding ceremony. It is typically a Latin Tradition but can be a component of your wedding ceremony. The meaning behind the giving of coins is quite beautiful. During the coin ceremony the groom drops 13 coins into the bride’s hands and the coins represent her dowry and his vow to support her. Sometimes the ring bearer will even take the coins up to the altar or wedding ceremony site as he brings the wedding rings forward. At the time of the coin ceremony, the officiant will then then ask for the coins and pour them into the grooms open palms. The wedding officiant will then say a special blessing wishing the bride and groom prosperity. We have performed the Coin Ceremony on many occasions and would be happy to add this to your own wedding ceremony.
You’ve probably heard someone refer to marriage as “tying the knot” or “giving one’s hand.” But have you ever wondered why we say these phrases?
What is Handfasting?
Handfasting is an ancient roman and Celtic wedding tradition which involves tying the bride and Groom’s hands together to symbolize coming together and remaining together. During the Roman Empire, the couple’s hands were tied together with grape vines and rope which explains the origination of the phrase “tying the knot.”
Handfasting was also later used as a form of marriage in the British Isles during the early Christian era. The couple’s hands were tied together with a cord in front of friends and family and were then considered legally married. They would have a formal wedding ceremony later when a priest was available to officiate.
Handfasting has seen a modern day resurgence especially in Ireland and Scotland following in part to the royal wedding in London. Prince William and Kate Middleton had a handfasting incorporated into their marriage:
How to incorporate handfasting into your wedding
Handfasting can be added to any wedding ceremony regardless of religion, as “tying the knot” is a universal wedding theme. The handfasting ceremony is highly customizable and can be the perfect way to incorporate special themes into your wedding day.
Handfasting is a Celtic Wedding Ritual that symbolizes the coming together and remaining together of two lives.
The Lasso is associated with a wedding prayer during the ceremony. As part of the ceremony to symbolize unity, a large loop of rosary beads is placed in a figure eight shape around the necks of the couple after they have exchanged their vows. The symbolism of the lasso is to show the union and protection of marriage. Special members of the wedding party may be in charge of “lassoing” the Bride and Groom together after they kneel for the wedding prayer, usually a married couple, often the Padrinas and Madrinas. They drape what is usually a white satin circle of cord around the shoulders of the kneeling Bride and Groom, groom’s shoulder’s first. The lasso may also be tied around their wrists. The Lasso is also often, but not always, a large or double Rosary cord.
The couple wears the lasso throughout the remainder of the service. The loop is symbolic of their love, which should bind the couple together everyday as they equally share the responsibility of marriage for the rest of their lives. A double rosary lasso may also be given by one set of the parents and may be blessed with holy water three times in honor of the trinity.
At the end of the ceremony the lasso is removed by the couple who placed the lasso on the couple, or by the priest. The lasso is given to the Bride as a memento of her becoming the Lady of the groom’s heart and home and shows their promise to always be together side-by-side.
The Lasso is associated with a wedding prayer during the ceremony. As part of the ceremony to symbolize unity, a large loop of rosary beads is placed in a figure eight shape around the necks of the couple after they have exchanged their vows. The symbolism of the lasso is to show the union and protection of marriage. Special members of the wedding party may be in charge of “lassoing” the Bride and Groom together after they kneel for the wedding prayer. They drape what is usually a white satin circle of cord around the shoulders of the kneeling Bride and Groom, groom’s shoulder’s first. The lasso may also be tied around their wrists.
When you have family members who are no longer here and you want them to be honored on your wedding day, you can have a memorial candle on a special table at the ceremony and placed at your reception too.
Perhaps you have lost your grandmother or grandfather, a broter, or special aunt – there is a way to remember and honor them and yet still keep your ceremony upbeat for the two of you.
There is a place this can be inserted into your wedding ceremony or their presence recognized with an empty chair with a rose placed on or or the candle lit or that you light during the ceremony.
You could have a poem or special reading read as well.
Looing for something different from a Sand Ceremony or Unity Candle? It may be that a ring warming ceremony is the perfect solution. The concept is simple: near the beginning of your ceremony, have your officiant let your guests know that your rings will be making their way through the assembled guests, with an invitation for each guest to hold the ring, say a silent prayer/blessing for your marriage, and then pass it to the next guest. Then the officiant can pass out the rings, and continue on with the ceremony until it’s time for you and your partner to present the rings to each other.
Obviously, there are limitations to a ring warming: it wouldn’t work well for super large weddings, and if you’re having a big wedding you may want to have someone watching the progress of the rings and keeping them moving in a timely manner through your guests.
Some people worry about rings getting dropped during the ceremony — if you like, you can affix them to a pillow or book or some other symbolic item for the passing.
The Rock ceremony is a great way to keep the blessings of your family and friends forever and get them involved in the ceremony itself. It was designed to symbolize the joining together of two lives and the blessing ofthe entire family and circle of friends that witness the wedding.
As your guests enter your wedding they are presented with a rock and a sharpie pen. Some use flat river rocks, other go out and collect rocks on the shore. As they wait for your ceremony to begin they write a short blessings on one side and their names on the other. Then right after you are pronounced husband and wife one of your attendants or special family members pass around a special vessel and the rocks are gently placed within. Then there is a moment of silence where the blessing is given the guests are asked to silently bless you marriage and future.
You of course, keep the vessel as a reminder of your weddings and the blessings you were bestowed with! Thistruely is a memory that will last a lifetime.
We can perform the Rose Ceremony on your wedding day. This adds an elegant and romantic touch to your wedding day. The Rose Ceremony is simple yet profoundly moving. The bride and groom exchange two red roses, symbolizing the giving and receiving of their love for each other throughout their entire married life. The Rose Ceremony also conveys how to use the rose and its symbolism in difficult times in order to forgive each other. The officiant has a very special ceremony prepared for the Rose Ceremony. Part of the Rose Ceremony asks you to choose a special location in your home so that in the future, should you ever have a misunderstanding and need to say you are sorry, you would place a single red rose in that special location and the one receiving the rose would understand the true meaning of the rose since the real meaning is that I Love You, always. The Rose Ceremony adds a special touch to your wedding vows.
There is also another variation which is done as the couple is ready to take their first walk down the aisle as husband and wife. The officiant hands them each a beautiful long stem red rose. For this Rose Ceremony, the bride gives her Rose to her mother and the groom gives his Rose to his mother. They are thanked and exchange a warm embrace with their Mothers’. The wedding couple joins together and begins their walk down the aisle as husband and wife.
Sand Ceremonies are a popular choice to have within the main portion of your wedding ceremony in Florida. Anywhere for that matter. There are lots of choices to make your Sand Ceremony unique and memorable on your wedding day. You could use the sand from beach from the exact place where your ceremony will be held. This will always be a place you can return to in the future reminiscing about when you first said ” I Do”. You could also choose to buy colored sand that matches your wedding colors. It makes a really unique pattern when you blend the two colors together. Be sure in both cases that you get three containers. The main container should be large enough to hold all the sand from the two smaller containers.
The Sand Ceremony represents the joining together and blending of your lives. No longer individual and separate but together. The last line of what we say as officiant says: “Just as these grains of sand can no longer be separated so too shall your lives be.” The Sand Ceremony works well in any outdoor setting and is not just for the beach. You could have a Sand Ceremony at your wedding at a Country Club , a Garden Wedding, Wedding at a Hotel, Lake Front Wedding, and so on. The reason this works so well outdoors is because you just can’t keep a flame lit outdoors for a Unity Candle. We have tried in may ways to make the Unity Candle work in an outdoor setting. It always blows out. I have painted a portion of what was said on the bottle of sand, sometimes the names of the couple, or their wedding date. I have used colored bottles to match the bride’s colors as well. Create your own special version of the sand ceremony. As your officiants, we will be happy to add the Sand Ceremony to you Wedding Ceremony. By the way, if you are coming for a Destination Wedding in Florida, we will be happy to bring the bottles with colored sand or without for a separate fee from the cost to officiate.
The Salt Covenant:
During ancient times, agreements and promises were sealed by a salt covenant. Each person would take a pinch of salt from their pouch and place it in the pouch of the other. This agreement could not be broken unless an individual could retrieve their own grains of salt.
Salt is all about adding flavor to your marriage because each of you is bringing unique qualities to the relationship, salt can melt ice or bring down the walls and let your love shine through each other, and salt preserves life — And when ya think about it like that, I can see why this could easily take the place of sand ceremonies and unity candles.
The egg shape symbolizes the full cycle of life, and therefore encompasses all that you will enjoy, create, and love with in your life together.”And after the wedding day covenant has been made, Centered Ceramics’ egg can then used daily as a salt cellar that sits on the kitchen counter.
Centered Ceramics is bringing back this awesome symbolic exchange in style with their raku-fired salt eggs.
Each Centered Ceramics Raku Salt Egg comes with
- Glazed egg sat cellar
- Names of the couple and their wedding date on the bottom
- An informational card about Salt Covenants
- A spoon
- Two custom labeled salt bags made from recycled table cloths (the labels can be customized to reflect any union and/or blended family)
- An Informational card about Raku
- And a fabric gift bag made from recycled material
And every piece is totally unique — there are no two identical pieces of Raku pottery! The eggs even range in size and shape, so these make awesome wedding gifts.
During the Unity Candle Ceremony, a representative of each family, usually the Mothers’ of the bide and groom light one of the long tapered candles to the side of the the main lager candle that is in the center which is the Unity Candle. The Mother of the groom enters first and lights the candle on the right representing the groom’s family. The Mother of the bride goes forward to the Unity candle once the Mother of the groom is seated, and lights the candle on the left representing the bride’s family and then takes her seat. This signals the start of the wedding ceremony.
The Unity Candle symbolizes the separate lives, families, and experiences you have had before the wedding day. After the exchange of vows, The bride and groom take the candle that their Mother lit and together light the central candle from the as a symbol of the unity of the couple and a joining of both families becoming one. A beautiful way to include the members of both families into the service and unite the families all as one.
The 13 coins represent different values that the couple want to share between themselves as the pictures on these gold coins: ~:~ Love ~:~ Harmony ~:~ Cooperation ~:~ Commitment ~:~ Peace ~:~ Happiness ~:~ Trust ~:~ Respect ~:~ Caring ~:~ Wisdom ~:~ Joy ~:~ Wholeness ~:~ Nurturing. These treasured keepsakes are a continuing reminder of the values you have incorporated into this sacred trust and are the universal tenants of marriage. They can be passed down from generation to generation as a prized family heirloom.
There are lots of variation of ways to perform a wine ceremony. We have many variations from which you can choose to incorporate a Wine Sharing into your Wedding Ceremony on your wedding day. The choice is up to you. You could even start your own Wine Sharing Tradition to carry on throughout the years after becoming husband and wife.
Here are four options for adding a Wine Sharing to your Wedding Ceremony:
1. As the groom begins to pour the wine into a special goblet, the officiant begins to speak about the birth of the wine in terms of how it began from a small seed, grew as it matured and ripened, and then was chosen especially to make this wine. Then as the bride pours her wine into the same goblet the officiant tells the story of the grapes used for her wine. Sometimes the wine is passed to family members to share with the bride and groom as the families have contributed to these two lives and helped the couple to blossom into the two people that were brought together to make their own special wine so to speak.
2. There are two glasses of wine that have been poured prior to the ceremony. The officiant will ask during the Wine Sharing portion of the wedding ceremony that the groom hand his bride a glass of wine and then he will ask the groom to get his glass of wine. The officiant then asks the couple to interlock their arms with the hand holding the glass. Be sure to practice ahead of time since this can take a few times to work out whose hand goes where. As the couple tastes the wine at the same time, the officiant talks about the couple joining as one and sharing their lives together.
3. There is the Jewish Tradition of Wine Sharing where the couple shares a glass of wine. Once the wine is consumed, the groom will wrap the glass in a piece of cloth and then break the glass with his foot. Everyone says Mazeltov!
4. There is a clear wine glass of red wine and a clear wine glass of white wine that has been poured ahead of time. The bride and groom each take one of the glasses of wine and they begin pouring their separate wine into a third clear wine glass the officiant talks about the color of the wine as they joined the wines together and the blending of their two hearts together. At the reception, you can serve a Rose’ wine to your guests as a reminder to all those that are married and as a reminder of the wedding couple in their new marriage and what it means to join together with all that you have and all that you will give to each other.