A commitment ceremony is really similar to a traditional wedding ceremony. The main difference is that it does not involve a marriage license. This is a meaningful and public announcement, of your commitment to each another.
A commitment ceremony may be religious or secular, formal and traditional or loose and unstructured. The ceremony will depend on you and the ideas you bring to us as we help you plan a very meaningful and heartfelt commitment ceremony.
Here is an example of how the commitment ceremony can be structured:
  • Greeting
    The officiant welcomes guests to a celebration of the love and commitment between the two of you.
  • Introduction

I will say something significant about your relationship, or about the commitment you are making to each other.

  • Readings/Music
    A religious commitment ceremony can incorporate scripture readings that focus on love. (l have a ceremony music suggestions and readings that are often used at commitment ceremonies if you need guidance or advice – just ask.) A secular ceremony will usually also include music and readings about love, including poems, passages of literature, famous quotes, personal writing, pop songs, and classic wedding music.
  • Commitment

Beautiful exchange of what this means to be here today making this commitment to each other.

  • Vows
    You declare your intent to be a committed couple. Similar to a wedding ceremony, you will make promises about what your commitment means to each of you. You can promise to love and cherish or add traditional vows.  Honestly, I encourage you to look at vows that encompass what you want to say. This is your moment and I know how to help you put in to words what you want to say. If you would like to write your own vows, you are welcome and encourages to do so. This is your ceremony.
  • Exchange of Rings
    Exchanges rings is another part of your commitment ceremony that can express what you feel for each other and what the ring symbolizes to you. Again- just let me know if you need help with this.
  •  It may be
    • With this ring, I thee wed
    • I give you this ring as an expression of my love and commitment to you
    • I’m honored to give you this ring as a symbol of the promises I’ve made to you today, and a proclamation to the world of the love I have for you.

    Or anything else that brings to life your feelings and puts them in to words (working with your officiant to create it – so that it is just right for you)

  • Traditions/Ceremony Extras
              Sand Ceremony, Wine Sharing, Coins, Rose Ceremony, Etc- what would you like to add here?
  •  Closing Words – personal message from me to the two of you.
  • Pronouncement
    The officiant announces to the guests or congregation that you are now joined/united/wed – whatever word you prefer to say) and invite you to kiss.

Some couples may not be used to kissing in public and thus may only have a very small kiss, or forgo this part altogether. Others will relish the moment to have the opportunity to                   kiss each other in front of their loved ones, proclaiming their love, and pride in having that love.

  • Reception